I’M FRUSTRATED–with myself! The right and wrong ways to deal with it.

Ugh!! Why did I do that AGAIN?!? I’m so frustrated!

Why do we do continue to do things that make us feel icky inside and like a fat blob?!
I know I’m being a little graphic, but it’s the truth!! That’s how we feel and we call ourselves much worse in our own heads.

But we’re human. We go through ups and downs. We make mistakes and we also soar. We have big wins and deep losses. This is our game of life.

But in the end, the winner is one who learns to control her mind and gets quicker and quicker at picking herself up and moving in a positive direction without missing a beat.

I found myself frustrated at my recent lack of self-discipline and it was not only creating stagnation in my goals, but ultimately the physical effects were adding up to feeling tired, bloated, low energy, puffy eyes and just plain yucky on the inside.

The frustration I was feeling could lead to two outcomes:

  1. Continued downward spiral because I had already “lost”, or
  2. The catalyst to change my direction and be the reminder of what I’m wanting to move away from.

What choice should I choose?

What choice should you choose?

What choice will you choose?

Watch my live video about what brought me to this place, how I dealt with it, and what other ways you can prevent yourself from going down the same trap. Or even how to pull yourself out if you already feel stuck.

I created a live video about the rest of my story in my free private group on Facebook, Worthy To Be Me. After you join, just scroll in the feed and you’ll see it posted on Sunday Nov. 13, 2016. There’s a lot of additional great tips and mindset things I share to help you, especially as we head into the holidays!

~Dr. Melody

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Join me and become one of my VIP’s–The inexpensive way to give you support, resources and accountability you need to make this holiday season, and many more, successful and empowering. Not drowning in stress and/or holiday weight gain. Learn more here.

Finding Your Peace Amidst A Divided Country

Whew! A very historic Election Day is over! But did it rob your peace?

More specifically, have you ALLOWED it to rob your peace? Big difference.

Regardless of who you voted for or how you feel about the current state of the U.S. or our uncertain future, it is imperative that you find peace. And here’s how:

1) Meditate on these verses. Allow God to speak to you and bring the peace you seek.

  • John 16:33 “I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.”
  • Philippians 4:6-7 “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
  • John 14:27 “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.”

2) Make quiet time to pray and give your worries, anxieties and fears to God. God is not scared or intimidated by your raw feelings! Be honest and express your deepest concerns. You’ll find peace at the end of your raw honesty.

3) Let go. When you stew and fret and doubt and worry, you not only make your own brain a battle ground and breeding ground for seeds of life-stealing fear, you only grow that which you are afraid of or don’t want.

  • Luke 12:25 “And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?”

4) Your mind is IMMENSELY powerful. Be very diligent what you allow to enter, live and exit.
Be purposeful and wise in choosing your thoughts.

  • Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.”

>> Final thought: Whether you’re in jubilation or dread about the results of the election and the future of our country, remember, God is in control. Rest in His peace, follow His will for your life, and no other outside governments can steal your peace.

How strong is your faith in the God of the Universe?

Do you need to do some faith-building and grow your trust in our Creator?

Take the time to do the inner work to seek the peace you need.

~Dr. Melody

P.S. Searching for peace? Needing to find your joy again? My Journaling into Joy 14 day journey kicks off TOMORROW, Thursday, Nov. 10th! I’ll show you how to use the power of journaling to look within and use certain strategies and techniques to reconnect with your true joy and fulfillment.

Life is too short to not be living joyfully!

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The role of JOY in our health…and on the scale.

We have so many coping mechanisms when we begin to be unhappy.

When we begin to lose what makes us happy, what makes us tick on the inside.

When we ultimately lose our joy.

We turn to food and/or alcohol, mind-numbing activities like binging on tv or video games, excessive shopping, unhealthy addictions, and personal degradation. We begin to just “exist”. So just go through the motions of life without anything that is truly fun to us. That makes us belly-laugh or cry tears of joy.

I’ve recently found myself in this place the past few months, and realized it was a gradual process over many years. And when I had been making enough headway with improvements in my own patterns, diet, and exercise, something was still missing.

Why could I not lose that final 10 pounds that I’d been working on for months, even years? Why could I not buckle down to be consistent in my eating and healthy routines? Why was I repeatedly self-sabotaging when I did begin to see changes?

Ultimately it was not a discipline or commitment factor, it was a joy-factor.

But how I could I get my joy, my spark, back? Where had it gone?

It was lost along the journey of being a business owner and juggling too many things. A to-do list that was never ending. Money crunches that were always looming. Stress that always present at some level.

So I had to go back to basics.

Really get to the heart of the matter, and even define who I was again. Was I solely defined by my business? By my brains? By my talent? Who did God see me as? Who did HE create me to be?

I knew in the earnest exploration of those questions that I would find myself again. I knew that there was no time like the present to set things straight, because tomorrow is not guaranteed.

So into my journal I dove. Pages upon pages and hours upon hours of reflection, expression, honesty, tears, cries of frustration and ultimately resolution.

When you can reconnect, even in the smallest way,to something that brings you even a hint of true joy to your soul, you have started the path to your healing.

In my case it was returning to what I like to do as a child. When I was not bogged down with “adult” responsibilities or self-imposed limits. And for me that is singing and dancing. Being creative in almost any form. Really flexing my creativity muscles, regardless of people’s opinions.

And literally the second I returned to these activities for my own pleasure and that of God’s, the joy returned. And oh, I was so desperate to feel even a drop! But the beauty about God’s joy is it satisfies you at a level nothing or no one ever could. It’s because you’re tapping into who your soul was created to do and be.

So how does this ultimately relate to changing the balance on the scale?

When we have true joy thriving inside, we are now engaged with things, people or circumstances that continue to foster that joy. When you are truly joy-ful, your cravings and your body’s urges to satisfy yourself with food or unhealthy coping strategies begins to decrease. And ultimately becomes non-existent.

But you have to do your part to reconnect to your joy! If and when you do, you will realize this is the natural response and progression. It’s not forced. You’re not just “extra disciplined.” The need is no longer there. Joy has taken it’s place. And a joyful heart and soul do not need self-soothing from any other source than God’s joy.

If you’ve lost your joy and feel that life has become “sub-par” or just “going through the motions”, I urge you to begin a deeper exploration. Try these strategies:

  • Get into nature and have a heart-to-heart with God. Don’t hold anything back. He can handle it.
  • Grab a journal and start letting everything that’s been bottled up have an outlet to release
  • Think back to your childhood. What did you like to do? What was fun for you? What or where were some of your favorite past-times? How can you begin to reincorporate those elements into your adult life?
  • Ask those close to you how they perceive you. What natural gifts and talents to they see you have. Thank them for their insight. Do not dismiss their observations. Take them to heart.
  • Find some Bible studies about joy.
  • Read Beth Moore’s book “Get Out of That Pit.”

As you begin reconnecting with yourself and reincorporating elements that bring you true joy into you life, things can change very fast! Don’t be surprised or afraid of this! You will have more clarity on your goals. More determination and discipline in your health. Your old coping mechanisms will begin to fall by the wayside and the pounds will begin to fall off. It’s a beautiful correlation. 🙂

In fact, I’d love to hear what comes up for you and what ways you’ve found to begin bringing joy back into you life. Share in the comments below, or connect with me further in my free private community on Facebook, Worthy To Be Me. I’d love to have you there and hear from you during your #joyjourney.

~Dr. Melody

P.S. Because I feel so strongly about wanting you to get the joy back in your life AND I know and believe in the power of journaling to facilitate that process,I’m running a 14 day journaling workshop called Journaling into Joy. We kick off Thursday, Nov. 10th until the 24th. The day before Thanksgiving.

What a perfect time of year to really feel joy in your life. Not have to “fake it” because we’re all “supposed” to be happy this time of year…I want it to be REAL for you. Learn more here. Only a few days left to join!

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