How Lack of Gratitude is Stealing Your Joy & How To Get It Back!

It may sound cliche’, but do you have an Attitude of Gratitude? I didn’t!

I’m finally home in San Diego after a week of busy traveling and I went back to back from 4 days in Texas for a personal growth conference, to 4 days in New Mexico caring for my niece and nephew while my sister was away for business. To say this past week has been a whirlwind, would be an understatement!

While at my conference the Holy Spirit revealed to me deep-seeded roots of things I’ve been stubbornly holding onto or blocking myself from feeling the fullness of the goodness of God and all that He wants for each of our lives.

I came to have some life-changing realizations that I think you might relate to as well:

  1. I have not been ALLOWING myself to receive good things. In fact, I have been RESISTING and blocking them in many areas because of deep feelings of unworthiness.
  2. I have unresolved issues of PRIDE and self-sufficiency that have gone undiagnosed and therefore not addressed.
  3. I have NOT been practicing a FULL Attitude of Gratitude for all the things God has given me and done for me, and I’ve taken many things for granted.
  4. When the Holy Spirit reveals things to you that you’d been in denial about, or not able to see them for the truth of what they are, it’s both liberating and scary. Now you’re faced with the undeniable fact that you MUST allow God to begin working in these areas if you want to receive God’s true JOY and Peacebut that’s not always easy!

We’ve become used to our old way of thinking. Those old habits and routines that perpetuated our negative thoughts, emotions and behaviors.

But the good news is WE ARE ADAPTABLE! God gave us the ability to change!

He made our brains pliable and literally adaptable (called brain plasticity) which allows us to not only change or heal the old, but actively create and mold the new!

What grace! What a gift! What a miracle!!


So let’s talk about HOW to change all of that.

How to adapt an Attitude of Gratitude that will allow us to experience deeper more intimate relationship with God, and can be cultivated and grown into a full life-changing experience of the fullness of joy that God created us to experience.

How to cultivate more JOY into your life:

  1. Start a daily written practice of what you are grateful for, on a daily basis. (I prefer nightly journaling just before bed to reflect and analyze your day.)
  2. Start your morning with prayer, asking God to open your heart and mind to see all of the things you can be grateful for that day.
  3. Begin a Bible study on Gratitude. Either a formal study, or do a google search on verses about gratitude that you can read, study and begin to memorize.
  4. Pray before every meal, no exceptions. Thanking God for what you’re about to eat, the miracle of convenience you experienced to have your meal before you, and the hands and processes that had taken place to get each item now resting on your plate.
  5. Ask the Holy Spirit to show and reveal to you ways in which you are blocking or blinding yourself from being grateful and what spirits of negativity or pessimism are creeping into your mind and destroying your experience of true joy. Rebuke them in Jesus’ name!

There is power in the name of Jesus!

His name has been given authority over every other name (Ephesians 1:18-23).

Daughter of the King, do not dismiss the power that Jesus died to give you!

Use it to it’s full capacity over negativity, pessimism, doubt, evil, darkness and the enemy of your soul.

Jesus has already defeated Satan so that we can be free from any sin that entangles. Plead the blood of Jesus over your life!

>> I’d love to hear how you’re planning to begin cultivating a culture of Gratitude and what realizations you may have had that are holding you back. Praying for you that the Holy Spirit will reveal truth to you and that you will have a deepening relationship with the Creator of the Universe, our Heavenly Father.

Your sister in Christ,
~Dr. Melody

P.S. If you’re needing additional help or “another pair of eyes” to help you examine what might be blocking or holding you back, I’m here for you. My mission to love others and help them grow in their calling and experience the fullness of the love of Christ is my greatest desire. I’d love to be that help for you.

Schedule a 90 minute Custom Strategy Session with me here.

How to NOT become a New Year’s Resolution “statistic”

Statistically speaking, today’s the day 40% of people give up their New Year’s Resolutions!

Have you already fallen prey to the 92% who ultimately give up their resolutions? Or are you still hanging on? And if you’re still hanging on, how strong is your resolve, your commitment from a scale of 1-10?

Why do the vast majority of resolutions fail? How could our once strong and purposeful desire for change be so easily abandoned?

There are many reasons, but ultimately, we try to change too quickly and with too high of expectations for ourselves that we lose hope, get frustrated and can’t maintain the changes we’ve tried to put in place.

But let me encourage you today. Regardless if you’ve already moved on from your resolutions, or you’re still diligently working, we all could use some help and support along the way. I encourage you to find an accountability partner. A supportive group or a companion that shares the same goals so you have an added layer of support and accountability.

And if you’re goals are health or weight-loss related, I want to make sure you know about the intimate women-only community I’ve created to serve for just that purpose.

Women who are all on their individual path of creating change, but having group support, ongoing training from myself, and a plethora of weight loss and health education and worksheets to track results, flesh out plans and ensure your success even further.

This group is designed not to dictate HOW you will get there (but of course there are resources to help guide you), but to boost your efforts and be a sounding board for encouragement, support and accountability.

This is my VIP group.

Ladies going above and beyond who are committed to themselves and their goals, and to be a safe place to be real, honest and know you’re not in this alone.
Learn more about becoming a VIP here.
Your sister in Christ,
~Dr. Melody

Keeping the right perspective toward better health

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One step closer. One action and one day at a time. ‪#‎justkeepswimming‬

That’s how you achieve your goal.
That’s how you cross the finish line.
That’s how you look back to be proud of how far you’ve come.

This applies in ALL areas: personal, business, health, financial, emotional, spiritual, relational etc.

But when it comes to your health (weight loss, habit creation, lifestyle change) THIS is the perspective you need to have.

One decision, one action, one step in the right direction, day by day–in the end landing you at your goal with so much progress and change that you CANNOT go back. It’s impossible.

You’re different.
You’re new.
You’ve changed–for the better.

Your hard-wiring has been reconfigured because you’ve put in the WORK.
You’ve been dedicated.
You’ve persevered.
You’ve made the tough choices–time and time again until they became commonplace.

You were COMMITTED.

And.you.WON.

I’m sharing this with you because this is that path that I’m on in MY business and health-journey, and I’m humbled and grateful to be leading others on theirs as well.
Seeing their shifts and changes and wins right in front of my eyes. And it’s BEAUTIFUL and HUMBLING and INSPIRING all at the same time.
So it’s expanding.
I’M expanding.
My business and influence is expanding.
And God is leading the way.
>> Next up: Live events for women’s groups and churches. A dream I’ve had for quite awhile now, finally coming to fruition. Interactive and immersive 1-day retreats to re-energize your health AND connection with God. Each person will leave with a personalized ACTION PLAN fo their health: meal planning, exercise routines, nutrition savvy and clear goals.
And revitalization of their faith–leaving burdens, worries and baggage at the feet of Jesus to step into a NEW DAY filled with love, acceptance, and grace to fully embody who He created us to be.
Introducing Health & Hope 1-Day Women’s Retreats.
If you think this type of experience would be unique and fun for your women’s group or church, click the link to fill out the inquiry form to get more information about having a 1-day retreat for YOUR women’s small group or church. Now booking dates for Fall & Winter 2016.
Learn More Here –> fitplusfaith.com/healthandhope
Your sister in Christ,
~Dr. Melody
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