There’s ONE KEY element to know if your weight loss plan will work, even BEFORE you get started.
There are literally HUNDREDS of options when you’re choosing a plan or path to follow for successful weight loss. Some are more viable and successful than others, but regardless, there are many options that can get you to the same goal.
And most likely, you’ve already tried a few, heck, maybe even dozens with mild or temporary success. But I wanted to encourage you today with a different perspective. One that has nothing to do with rules or restrictions or guidelines.
Often times when someone decides to embark upon a specific set of rules or eating guidelines, they are making A LOT of changes at once. To the point where their long-term success rate is low because it’s so hard to maintain all of these changes over any significant length of time.
They bring chaos, confusion, and ultimately STRESS when someone is trying to bring so many radical changes to their daily life out of the blue. When weight loss is laden with STRESS, Honey, it’s not gonna work!
So the KEY ELEMENT when you’re looking to make changes and follow one plan over the another is look at it through new eyes. Through the lenses of sustainability and stress.
Evaluate how radical the changes are going to be from your current status quo. How much stress are they going to bring to your current lifestyle? Think of making smaller changes over time. Then once those are easy you can add a few more in until you’ve cultivated new patterns and habits of health into your routine. I highly advise against attempting change everything at once which will NOT give you the long-term results you desire.
This approach leads to quitting, then to feeling like a failure (once again!) then to self-loathing and ultimately to overeating and reversing your progress. See the cycle?
I hope this new approach or new way of screening any “diets” or plans you’re wanting to follow helps to set you up for success in a different way than you’ve tried before. Remember, long-term weight loss and health changes are like a marathon, not a sprint. You need to have that long-term mindset and a firm grasp of reality to keep you going. Sending you love!
Your sister in Christ,
~Dr. Melody
P.S. If you’re frustrated and scared of continuing the cycle of dieting “ups and downs” and feel there’s a missing piece you haven’t found, then having a coach could be the game-changer you’ve been looking for.
Regardless of what path you choose to lose weight, I can help you go deeper into what has REALLY been stopping or thwarting your best efforts for change. The those things are hard to discover and move past without a firm and supporting guide.
Schedule a complimentary Strategy Session with me today. Let’s take you to that next level of success.
Statistically speaking, today’s the day 40% of people give up their New Year’s Resolutions!
Have you already fallen prey to the 92% who ultimately give up their resolutions? Or are you still hanging on? And if you’re still hanging on, how strong is your resolve, your commitment from a scale of 1-10?
Why do the vast majority of resolutions fail? How could our once strong and purposeful desire for change be so easily abandoned?
There are many reasons, but ultimately, we try to change too quickly and with too high of expectations for ourselves that we lose hope, get frustrated and can’t maintain the changes we’ve tried to put in place.
But let me encourage you today. Regardless if you’ve already moved on from your resolutions, or you’re still diligently working, we all could use some help and support along the way. I encourage you to find an accountability partner. A supportive group or a companion that shares the same goals so you have an added layer of support and accountability.
And if you’re goals are health or weight-loss related, I want to make sure you know about the intimate women-only community I’ve created to serve for just that purpose.
Women who are all on their individual path of creating change, but having group support, ongoing training from myself, and a plethora of weight loss and health education and worksheets to track results, flesh out plans and ensure your success even further.
This group is designed not to dictate HOW you will get there (but of course there are resources to help guide you), but to boost your efforts and be a sounding board for encouragement, support and accountability.
This is my VIP group.
Ladies going above and beyond who are committed to themselves and their goals, and to be a safe place to be real, honest and know you’re not in this alone.
Learn more about becoming a VIP here.
Your sister in Christ,
~Dr. Melody
Discipline. Not a word we typically like. It conjures negative thoughts like hard work, time and effort, inconvenience, struggle.
But it is the key to your success.
Which successes, you ask? EVERY success.
And I’m learning this the hard way, believe me. But at least I’m learning. 😉
There are two things you need to have and embody in order to achieve your goals. And by goals, I mean ANY goal. Any dream. Any desire. Any pursuit. Any thing you’d like to create, be or have.
I’ve already given the first away: Discipline.
Can you guess the other? Take a second before you read on and truly think what other characteristic you think it could be….time? talent? knowledge? luck?
Consistency.
Discipline + Consistency = SUCCESS!
What I’ve found to be true in my life and the life of each of my patient’s a clients is that without these two components, success is only partly realized. They MUST go together.
“But they’re hard!” I know. Give yourself permission to throw a pity party for a second, then face the facts and own up to it. How do you stack up in these two areas right now?
>> Where are you practicing them well, and where do you need to improve?
It’s only when you’re able to do take stock in your own life and habits, and examine where change needs to take place–then begin implementing it–before you will ever see things change and fully achieve your goals.
I’ve realized for myself, being an entrepreneur and business owner for the past 5 years, that when I’ve made great strides and achieved great things in my personal and professional life, I’ve had both of these going at the same time. But when I allow one or both to slack off, they’re no longer in balance and the only thing that suffers is my results! My success. My satisfaction of reaping the rewards.
So why do we do it? Why do we not discipline ourselves enough to be consistent to the end?
So many reasons actually. But one of the big ones is self-sabotage. We’re wired innately in our brains for fight or flight –> survival. So as we’ve advanced in our society and no longer need to run and hunt wild animals or scavenge for food and resources, the instincts and wiring still remains. So now it tries to protect us from other “perceived threats” such as success, public exposure, visibility, even joy and true happiness. Because in the subconscious mind’s eye these things each bring with them the unknown.
And unknown = bad.
So fear sets in. Doubt. Self-limiting beliefs. Negative self talk. All kinds of creative ways the mind tries to thwart your efforts. Because you are daring to enter the unknown! How dare you! How risky and dangerous!
But let’s open our eyes to understanding our wiring, and that it no longer needs to protect us. We can reassure our mind that we are knowingly entering in to uncharted territory. We can tell our brain that it’s ok and that it’s protection strategies are actually hindering, not helping.
When you begin to speak to yourself–audibly, through writing and silently in your mind–you chip away at the fear. The limitations. The lies that say you don’t know what you are doing. And even if you really don’t know what you are doing, you can reassure your mind that you are moving forward intentionally anyway.
Sometimes we just need to have a heart to heart with ourselves!
I encourage you today to begin the “inner work.” The work on self. The work that in the end will unlock all of your potential, your dreams, your goals will be realized and your soul will be set free.
But you have to put in the time…consistently. You have to work toward your goals…consistently. You have to move past the fear…consistently. You have to have a dedicated and disciplined mindset. You have to put the systems and strategies in place to allow discipline to become second nature.
If you’re confused about your lack of progress or you’ve tried and failed too many times to count, I guarantee you it was because either (or both) discipline and consistency were lacking or not in balance.
But now that you know the problem, you can make NEXT TIME the right time. And the time after that, and after that, and after that…consistently enough that you will have NO CHOICE but to succeed.
I’m cheering you on!
~Dr. Melody
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P.S. If you’re realizing that where you’ve gone wrong in the past was lack of either of these two key traits and you’re ready to get moving again–this time to achieve a better result–I can help you do that with record speed. Having a coach by your side, helping you see areas you’re missing, to be a sounding board, to be an advocate…that’s what I’m best at. I help my clients succeed. Whether it’s weight loss, healthy lifestyle implementation, personal growth and development and so much more, I can help.
Click here to choose a time of your convenience to chat with me and let’s map out your game plan and chart your success course. <3 The only thing suffering is you. It’s time to take you all the way to the success you’ve been dreaming about. It.is.possible.
